What is

What is

You may not know how to pronounce the word Meemoeder and you probably do not know what it means. Let me help you with the latter.

Meemoeder is the term the Dutch government uses for the non-biological mom of the lesbian couple with a kid (or kids). As of June 2014, we no longer have to adopt our own children. The lesbian parents can fill out a form before the baby is born. After the baby is born, the meemoeder can go to the municipality to let it know the baby is born, becoming the legal parent immediately.

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Meemoeder experiences

That is a brief description of how this meemoeder thing works. Some people do not like the word, though. That is because it roughly translates as ‘the other mom.’ They probably believe this indicates a certain ranking. To me, the meemoeder term only mattered during the pregnancy; now, I am just a mom.

I do want to name this blog as it is exactly the word people are looking for online when they need information before and during the pregnancy. I just want to help them out by sharing my experiences. When my wife was pregnant, I was looking for some stories from other meemoeders and all I could find was information from the Government and lawyers.

Blogs about experiences, tips, and reviews

This website started out as a personal blog about my wife’s pregnancy, but it has grown into much more. In Dutch, I continue to write about parenting and queer parenting specifically.

In English, I discuss new LGBT+ movies, web series, and TV shows. I also blog and vlog at international LGBT+ events. Most of them aim to improve and celebrate queer representation in media, such as ClexaCon, Love Fan Fest, and LoveCon’. A YouTube channel has been added in 2017, so you can watch videos. It would mean the world if you subscribed!

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