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Beyond Clexa Mug Giveaway

Beyond Clexa Mug Giveaway

Want to win a Beyond Clexa mug with Representation Matters on it? Meemoeder.com hosts a queer giveaway on Instagram, where three people can win one. Below are all the rules.

‘Beyond Clexa Mug Giveaway’ Want to win a Beyond Clexa mug with Representation Matters on it? Meemoeder.com hosts a queer giveaway on Instagram, where three people can win one. Here are all the rules.

Beyond Clexa Mug Giveaway: Rules

  • This giveaway includes three times one Beyond Clexa mug with Representation Matters on it.
  • To win, you should follow Meemoeder.com and Beyond Clexa on Instagram (www.instagram.com/meemoedercom and https://www.instagram.com/beyondclexa). In addition, you need to have tagged at least one person in a comment under the giveaway announcement. This person cannot be the person who tagged you first. This will be checked if you have been picked as the winner.
  • If you share the giveaway post in your story, you receive an extra entry. You have to tag @meemoedercom and @beyondclexa in the story to receive the extra entry.
  • Do not tag anybody in the image of this giveaway announcement. You may only tag a person (or more) in a comment.
  • You can enter the giveaway until 9 am GMT+1/CET on June 8, 2020. Entries after 9 am GMT+1/CET on June 8, 2020 will not be included in the random selection of the winner. The winner will be announced on June 8, 2020 after the giveaway deadline.
  • You can only enter once per Instagram handle (so if you have more Instagram accounts, you can enter multiple times).
  • All entries will be given a number in the order of entry. With Google’s random number generator, three numbers will be picked. The associated entries are the winners. 
  • If you have been selected as one of the winners, you agree to your Instagram handle publicly being announced as the winner on the social media channels of Meemoeder.com and Beyond Clexa. 
  • If you have been selected as one of the winners, you agree to send your contact information to Beyond Clexa, so they can properly send you the prize. They will not use your information for other purposes unless you explicitly give consent thereto.
  • The prize is personal and is in the name of the winner. This prize is not transferable, exchangeable or redeemable for money or for other products or services.
  • The giveaway is available to entrants from every country, but Meemoeder.com and Beyond Clexa are not responsible for any customs to be paid.
  • Because of the coronavirus, there may be restrictions on (international) shipping. Beyond Clexa will ship the prize the moment this is possible.
  • This giveaway is in no way sponsored, endorsed, or administered by, or associated with, Instagram.

Giveaway Representation Matter mugs from Beyond Clexa

Giveaway Representation Matter mugs from Beyond Clexa

Meemoeder.com and Beyond Clexa are holding a queer giveaway on Instagram. The prize? 3 Representation Matter mugs from Beyond Clexa! Below are all the rules.

‘Giveaway Representation Matter mugs from Beyond Clexa’ Meemoeder.com and Beyond Clexa are holding a queer giveaway on Instagram. The prize? 3 Representation Matter mugs from Beyond Clexa! Here are all the rules: https://bit.ly/IGGiveawayMugs

How to win the Representation Matter mugs from Beyond Clexa: Rules

  • This giveaway includes three Representation Matter mugs from Beyond Clexa.
  • To win, you should follow Meemoeder.com on Instagram (www.instagram.com/meemoedercom) and follow Beyond Clexa on Instagram (www.instagram.com/beyondclexa). In addition, you need to have tagged at least one person in a comment under the giveaway announcement. This will be checked if you have been picked as the winner.
  • You can enter the giveaway until 5 pm GMT+1/CET on May 26, 2020. Entries after 5 pm GMT+1/CET on May 26, 2020 will not be included in the random selection of the three winners. The three winners will be announced on May 26, 2020 after the giveaway deadline.
  • Do not tag anybody in the image of this giveaway announcement. You may only tag a person (or more) in a comment.
  • You receive an extra entry if you share the giveaway post in your story. To receive the extra entry, you have to tag both @meemoedercom and @beyondclexa in the story.
  • You can only enter once per Instagram handle (so if you have more Instagram accounts, you can enter multiple times).
  • All entries will be given a number in the order of entry. With Google’s random number generator, three numbers will be picked. The associated entry is the winner. 
  • If you have been selected as one of the winners, you agree to your Instagram handle publicly being announced as one of the winners on the social media channels of both Beyond Clexa and Meemoeder.com. 
  • If you have been selected as one of the winners, you agree to send your name, shipping address, and e-mail address to Beyond Clexa, so they can properly send you the mug. Beyond Clexa will not use your information for other purposes unless you explicitly give consent thereto.
  • The prize is personal and is in the name of the winner. The prize is not transferable, exchangeable or redeemable for money or for other products or services.
  • This giveaway is available to entrants from every country, but Beyond Clexa and Meemoeder.com are not responsible for any customs to be paid.
  • Because of the coronavirus, there may be restrictions on (international) shipping. Beyond Clexa will ship the mugs the moment this is possible.
  • This giveaway is in no way sponsored, endorsed, or administered by, or associated with, Instagram.
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Good Kisser: The New Sexy Lesbian Movie You Didn’t Know You Needed

Good Kisser: The New Sexy Lesbian Movie You Didn’t Know You Needed

Good Kisser is a new lesbian movie that I have been dying to watch since I discovered it on social media a few months ago. All I knew was the plotline: “Jenna agrees to a sexy weekend fling with materialistic girlfriend Kate and the worldly Mia. As the night unfolds, Jenna realizes she’s bitten off more than she can chew, and the love triangle begins to crack.”

In this blog post, I describe why this movie started to intrigue me a few months ago and how I feel after watching Good Kisser. This way, you know exactly how quickly you should go and watch it. I have also recorded a video if that is more your cup of tea. You can find it below this image (don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel!)

‘Good Kisser: The New Sexy Lesbian Movie You Didn’t Know You Needed’ Good Kisser is a new lesbian movie that I have been dying to watch since I discovered it on social media a few months ago. All I knew was the plotline. In this blog post, I describe why this movie started to intrigue me a few months ago and how I feel after watching it. This way, you know exactly how quickly you should go and watch it: http://bit.ly/GoodKisserMovie

Why the idea of Good Kisser was intriguing to me

The first thing I want to mention is the fact that this movie centers around lesbian sex lives. I find that refreshing because I clearly remember the time when we had to settle for a kiss. Or there would merely be a glance. I do always get scared when productions take this route because so often, sexy f/f scenes are directed for the male gaze. So, will these scenes actually be sexy for us? Given the fact that Wendy Jo Carlton is the writer and director of this movie, I trusted things would be fine sexy.

The second thing that intrigued me is that the feature film, in large part, focuses on three people in a timeframe of one night. To me, that gave the movie a bit of a theatrical vibe, focusing on characters and their development rather than on action. I like diving into characters, so that is what made me even more enthusiastic.

As you can probably tell, I was really excited when I received a screener.

The first thing I liked about Good Kisser: the quality of production

I do not know if it is because this production had a decent amount of funding or because most of it was shot at one location (well, it seems that way; they may have fooled me 😉) but the quality is really good. Sometimes when you watch an indie movie, you can immediately list a few things that could have gone better had the production had more money. The drone shots with which the movie starts, the lighting, everything just seems to be really well done.

The second thing I liked: the cast

I cannot talk about Good Kisser without talking about the cast. If your movie focuses on three people in a timeframe of one night, the cast can make or break the movie. If the actors are not interesting to watch or if there is absolutely no chemistry between them when they have to portray people in love or lust, the movie is doomed.

Fortunately, Kari Alison Hodge, Rachel Paulson, and Julia Eringer were cast as Jenna, Kate, and Mia. When watching, you want to pay close attention to every single actor. Oh, and that chemistry? Don’t worry about it…

The two supporting roles are needed to further the development of the story. Those actors (Courtney McCullough and Carter Rodriquez) obviously contribute to the movie in their own charming ways.

The third thing I liked about Good Kisser: the lines

I think it was within three minutes that my wife and I looked at each other like: “What?!” Within about ten minutes, I must have alternated ‘Jesus’ with ‘oh my god’ and ‘WTF?’ at least twenty times. I guess you could say I was hooked from the beginning. I wish I had been a fly on the wall that first table reading. You will have some feelings about the comments that Kate makes.

The fourth thing I liked: the soundtrack

Another worthy mention is the music in this movie. The songs match the scenes perfectly. I usually don’t need the soundtrack to a movie but this is something I could listen to more often!

The fifth thing I liked about Good Kisser: the sexy scenes

I don’t think you can review this movie without mentioning the sexy scenes. Remember that fear I had of them not being good? Eh, yeah, not necessary. Are they sexy? Yup.

Where can you watch Good Kisser?

Good Kisser, shot in Seattle, will have its world premiere at the Seattle International Film Festival, which runs May 16 – June 9, 2019. Other dates/film festivals will be announced on their website and social media pages, so make sure to follow them on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest. Who knows, you might find out when you will be able to purchase the movie yourself.

In a few weeks, I will show you the interview I had with Kari Alison, Rachel, and Julia at ClexaCon. Have you read my first ClexaCon interview? It was with Julia and Shantell Yasmine Abeydeera, who work together in Girls Like Magic.

 

Kaitlyn Alexander Discusses Their New Projects at LoveCon’

Kaitlyn Alexander Discusses Their New Projects at LoveCon’

At LoveCon, Kaitlyn Alexander was kind enough to talk to me for about ten minutes. What a ray of sunshine they are! We talked about LoveCon’, CarmillaCon, Slo Pitch series, and Show and Tell. Below, you will find a part of the interview. If you want to watch the full interview, please watch the video on my YouTube channel.

‘Kaitlyn Alexander Discusses Their New Projects at LoveCon’ At LoveCon, Kaitlyn Alexander was kind enough to talk to me for about ten minutes. What a ray of sunshine they are! We talked about LoveCon’, CarmillaCon, Slo Pitch series, and Show and Tell: http://bit.ly/KaitlynLoveCon

LoveCon’ is Kaitlyn Alexander’s first con

Me: “You haven’t been at a con yet. You’ve been dying to come to one and we’ve been dying to see you at a con. So, how’s LoveCon’ so far?”

Kaitlyn: “It’s like the best experience, honestly. People keep saying that they came here to meet me and I’m like: “No, I came here to meet you!” This is so incredible. Putting names to all the usernames and the faces is the best feeling in the world. I love this; it’s so incredible. I’m so happy I got to be here.”

CarmillaCon created by fans

Me: “CarmillaCon is coming up. How amazing is that?”

Kaitlyn: “It’s like the coolest thing in the world.”

Me: “Did you ever expect that would happen?”

Kaitlyn: “Honestly,  when we did season one, I was like: “That was a great season of the show.”  And I never thought we would ever get season 2 or 3 or a 0 or a movie. So, the fact that there is a con now is like out of this world. I have no idea what is happening, but it’s great.”

Me: “And it’s created by fans.”

Kaitlyn: “Yeah! Which is like amazing; that dedication and that love for the show is incredible. I’m so happy to be a part of it.”

Me: “And it’s in Toronto, so that’s a bit easier with the jetlag. Does that make it more special?”

Kaitlyn: “I think it is special because it’s the place where Carmilla was born. It’s the city that we’ve been all over filming and LaF, in my head, lives in Toronto, so it’s nice.”

Music

Me: “On your YouTube channel, you have been uploading music videos for a while now. Now, you have an album out. Can you tell us a bit about that process?”

Kaitlyn: “I have a five-song EP, which is fun. It’s funny; one of those songs is eight years old. It’s Show and Tell; the video starred my girlfriend.

It was actually written for my girlfriend back when we were only friends in university. That entire album is just songs that I wrote about her. She’s embarrassed about it [ laughs].

It took almost two years to make. Erik Solarski is the best producer. He was like “I love your music. Can we make an album?” It was an incredible experience. I hope I get to make more music.”

Spotify and Bandcamp

Me: “How does it feel to have the finished product out?”

Kaitlyn: “Weird. I searched myself on Spotify the other day and I actually popped up. I was like: “Whoa!”

Me: “You said somewhere that it is better to buy your music on Bandcamp than to stream it. Can you explain why?”

Kaitlyn: “Streaming services pay artists a couple of cents every time we play a song. With Bandcamp, the money goes directly to the artist.

Basically, I paid every musician who is part of the album but the money that I make off the album is going to pay them more. I could not afford their full fee but I do want to make sure everybody gets paid.

If people buy the album on Bandcamp, I have more money to give to the artists who helped make the album possible.”

Slo Pitch series

Me: “I saw some videos and images on Instagram that I wanted to talk to you about.”

Kaitlyn: “Slo Pitch?”

Me: “Yes! Could you tell us a bit more about it?”

Kaitlyn: “Yes. Slo Pitch is a new series that is created by Gwenlyn Cumyn, Justine Nelson, Erin Carter, and Karen Knox. It’s a really cool, funny new series. We shot a trailer. It’s like The Office mixed with baseball; it’s great.

I am a character on the Toronto Blue Gays, which is the villain squad. I really hope it gets made because I have always wanted to play a villain and I’ve never gotten to. Watch the trailer!”

Me: “Is there any way we can support it? Will there be a crowdfunding campaign?”

Kaitlyn: “It’s an IPF thing, which is a funding thing in Canada. Watching the trailer and leaving comments can be the key to us getting a season. So, please watch it because I would love to play a villain.”

Watch the trailer to support this new show!

Kaitlyn Alexander answered fan questions

Kaitlyn Alexander and I talked about more things and they answered three fan questions, so make sure to check out the video if you want to watch the full interview. And don’t forget to subscribe to our channels if you haven’t already!

Also, did you know that two days after LoveCon’, a crowdfunding campaign was created to get me to ClexaCon? It was fully funded in a week. I want to show my gratitude here once again. It feels amazing. Thank you so very much! I will be blogging and vlogging in Las Vegas for you in four weeks!

Carmen & Lola: A Lesbian Love Story in the Roma Community

Carmen & Lola: A Lesbian Love Story in the Roma Community

This month, the 22nd edition of the Amsterdam LGBTQ Film Festival will take place. In Dutch, it is called De Roze Filmdagen. March 14-24, you will be able to see 44 feature films, 10 documentaries, and 84 short films from 48 countries. The festival opens with Carmen & Lola, a lesbian feature film from Spain. In this blog post, you will find my review. You will also find their social media accounts to support them online and to see when the movie will be screened at a festival near you.

‘Carmen & Lola: A Lesbian Love Story in the Roma Community’ This month, the 22nd edition of the Amsterdam LGBTQ Film Festival (De Roze Filmdagen) will take place. The festival opens with Carmen & Lola, a lesbian feature film from Spain. In this blog post, you will find my review. You will also find their social media accounts to support them online and to see when the movie will be screened at a festival near you: http://bit.ly/CarmenAndLola

The storyline of Carmen & Lola

Carmen and Lola are two young women from the Roma community on the outskirts of Madrid.  Like every other woman she has ever met, Carmen is destined to live a life that is repeated generation after generation: getting married and raising as many children as possible. Lola is supposed to do the same, but she is different, as everybody describes her. Lola dreams about going to university, draws bird graffiti, and likes girls.  The two women fall in love. As a result, they have to face up to a culture where family honor and centuries of tradition are still very strong.

Divided opinion

I am divided in my opinion about Carmen & Lola, and I will describe why. Carmen & Lola is a lesbian coming-of-age and coming-out story. As some of you say, we already have so many of these stories. We are not defined by our coming out. There is more to our lives, and I am sure we have plenty of other stories to tell, preferably ones that do not only center around our sexual orientation.

That said, if you are in that stage of your life where you are struggling with your sexual orientation and coming out, a story like that of Carmen & Lola might be just what you need. It has all the classic elements. Is she gay? If she is, is she into me? If she is into me, what will that lead to? How will our families react? What do we do?

However, if you are at that stage, a movie that shows a positive image of our lives as a whole might give you more hope than a movie that focuses on that one (possibly) big, scary moment. Let’s be honest, coming out continuous to occur throughout our queer lives.

Roma culture

That said, if you get over that fact, Carmen & Lola is a beautiful movie. I was interested in it precisely because the story plays in the Roma culture. I had heard of it, but I had never really seen anything about it. This movie is brutally honest about this culture. It shows the good parts, and it shows the discriminations and lack of hope for a prosperous future the Roma people face. It also shows the traditions that seem very suffocating to me.

Engagement

I mean, it starts with two seventeen-year-olds getting engaged. They are not allowed to interact much with each other even though they both know they will be getting engaged soon. Then, the dads have to have this big talk about why this marriage would be good for the families and what the kids have to offer. Only after ‘the deal is sealed,’ the two see each other, fully dressed as if they already are getting married. It is quite the spectacle, and this scene could occur in one of my nightmares, I am not going to lie.

Perfect cast

At the same time, this otherness is what makes the movie so interesting to watch. However, let’s not forget about the actors. The entire time, I was wondering where they got these actors from. After all, they look like they could be Roma themselves. As you learn from the movie, career prospects for Roma women are not abundant. If they are lucky, they can become a hairdresser. So how did these people end up in this movie?

After watching the movie, I learned these actors are indeed from the Roma culture themselves, and they are not professionals. However, there is nothing unprofessional about their performances! They are all so very good, and it made me so happy to learn about this opportunity for them.

Follow Carmen & Lola on social media

As said, you can watch Carmen & Lola at De Roze Filmdagen in Amsterdam. If you are unable to attend, you can best follow the movie online to see when it will be screened at a film festival near you. They are active on Facebook and Instagram.

Are you going to De Roze Filmdagen? Please also watch The Date, Rafiki, Cassandro, the Exotico!, Dante vs. Mohammed Ali, Yulia & Juliet, and Vlam!

BiPositive Podcast Interviewed Me. This is What We Talked About!

BiPositive Podcast Interviewed Me. This is What We Talked About!

You may know that I occasionally get to interview interesting LGBT+ people and allies on my international con trips. Well, a while back, I was interviewed myself, and that was a refreshing experience. It is funny to be on the other side. Mari and MD invited me for an episode of BiPositive Podcast. Thanks for the invite and the relaxed conversation!

Fun fact: we are all living in The Hague, and we were all at ClexaCon London, but we didn’t know about each other. We found out about it on social media afterward. So, this is the first time we met!

In this blog post, I will highlight some of the subjects we discussed. As we talked for about an hour, this is only a small part, and you should definitely listen to the entire episode! You can follow BiPositive Podcast on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. You can listen to the episode on a bunch of websites, including iTunes and SoundCloud.

‘BiPositive Podcast Interviewed Me. This is What We Talked About!’ I was invited for an episode of BiPositive Podcast. In this blog post, I highlight some of the subjects we discussed, such as lesbian parenting and feeling safe as a member of the LGBTQ+ community. I also list where you can listen to the episode: http://bit.ly/BiPositive

BiPositive Podcast: the start of Meemoeder.com

I think most of my followers abroad know me from my LGBT+ con trips but have no idea what meemoeder stands for and why my website is called this way. It was indeed the first question I was asked.

Simply put, meemoeder is the word the Dutch government gives the non-biological mom of a married lesbian couple that has a kid together. When my wife was pregnant, I was looking for experiences from other lesbian moms, but I could not find any. I could only find info from the government and lawyers. Also, at almost every parenting blog, I was addressed as a father, which started to bug me after a while.

So, I started to describe my own experience (in Dutch) so that others would not end up in the same situation as me. This is my way of giving back to the LGBT+ community. I am now one of the first search results, which means others can find me easily.

I noticed I always somehow ended up talking about movies as they are one of my passions. Then, I saw videos of the first ClexaCon edition on YouTube, and I received a press pass for the second edition. That’s how this whole English version of my website and my YouTube channel came into existence. Funny how things sometimes go, right?!

BiPositive Podcast: being a lesbian parent among other parents

Mari and MD wanted to know how it feels to be a lesbian parent among other parents. Thankfully, most of the time, there is no difference. I do remember two incidents when things were different for me.

One funny situation occurred at Schiphol Airport when we were taking a trip to the U.S. and Canada when our son was eleven months old. We did not even think about bringing his birth certificate. That caused some problems when we tried to leave The Netherlands.

The border control told us that they could not see if he was our baby. We were finally allowed to go on our trip by saying he has my wife’s looks and my last name, and that we were both wearing the same wedding rings. We were pretty scared when we crossed the American-Canadian border that trip, but nothing happened, fortunately.

Momma’s boy

One not so funny situation occurred a while back. I had an appointment somewhere and what often happens during such an appointment, is that you start talking about your family. You know the type of appointments, like at the hairdresser.

This woman started asking how we got our son, and I explained. Then, she started calling him my wife’s son, and I constantly had to say ‘our son.’ And it’s not like you can leave the appointment halfway through, so it’s just awkward all around.

I don’t know why but I started showing her pictures. Then, she started saying things like: “Oh yes, he really looks like her. Oh, that’s really a momma’s boy.” It hurt me, but I still have no idea how to respond. I did turn it into a Dutch blog post.

BiPositive Podcast: social stigma

Mari and MD also wondered if we were worried about a social stigma for our kid before my wife became pregnant. I answered that we still are. I guess we’ll find out when he goes to school.

Right now, at his daycare center, it is no problem at all because toddlers don’t know any better. We are hopeful that things are better for him now than they were for me growing up. I think there is a change in how kids deal with homosexuality nowadays. Therefore, we hope his teenage years will be okay.

The one thing that we try to teach him is confidence. If you have confidence, you can speak up or fight back when something bad happens. If nothing bad happens, well great, you have confidence.

Our episode of BiPositive Podcast

I focused on the lesbian parenting part in this blog post as it is something I rarely talk about on the English version of my website. I thought it would be nice to give you my ideas on this topic for a change. We talked about plenty of other topics. As Mari and MD are from Ukraine and France, we talked about the differences in our cultures and in how safe we feel being queer. Naturally, ClexaCon and queer representation in media came up. SO, I encourage you to go to iTunes or SoundCloud and to listen to our episode of BiPositive Podcast!

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